I think that it is very important to say first and foremost that this blog is absolutely not about medical school in any way, shape, or form. Sure, "medical" is in the title, but neither Cap nor I define ourselves by the choice our husbands have made to pursue a career in medicine. We are, however (and perhaps, unfortunately), affected by this choice and have had to adapt our lives accordingly.
And that, my friends, is exactly what this blog is about.
the title should have been, The C and B Chronicles: Adapting to Medical
School. God, that's depressing. Besides that, its false. Maybe adapt
wasn't the best word. The past two years have not been a story of
adaptation. These two years have been about survival--of finding ways to
entertain ourselves and enjoy life (with so very little money) as our husbands forsook us for
medical school. These past two years have been a study in patience,
understanding--virtues which do not come so easily to me--and have been
a practice in the art of not murdering our husbands.
See what I did there?
Cap and I became
friends out of circumstance. We met because our husbands were in the
same class and studied together. Studying together in medical school
constitutes as friendship (FYI). I guess at some point, Cap and I
figured we should maybe hang out, too. Looking back, the early days of our
acquaintance are a bit fuzzy.
Now, I think (and hope she agrees), Cap and I are friends by choice.
from family and friends and all other familiar things, Cap (from
Louisiana) and I (from South Carolina) have not--by choice--settled
comfortably into life in the mountains of West Virginia. Our
foundations in this state have been set very gingerly atop the ground, knowing full well that this is
just a temporary stop along the way to wives-of-doctor-hood.
and I have known each other for just over two years now. Our story could
be long, is certainly complicated, and most likely absurdly boring, so I am just going
to jump ahead to the present.
Three things you should know first as it will help you understand our friendship:
We are couple friends. Meaning that the four of us (Cap, husbands, and
I) love hanging out together doing all sorts of fun things that we will thrill you with on here.
2. J (Cap's husband) and I are so very similar that it is creepy. On
that note, W (my husband) and Cap are so very similar that it is
ADORABLE. Probably the only things that J and I have in common are our shared loves for Cap and W.
3. The four of us were reunited this July after a yearlong
separation. (That year is what could make our story long, so let's just leave it at that.)
have been many changes since before the "long story." First of all, W
and I no longer live in the same town as Cap and J. We are all still
in West Virginia, but are now separated by a harrowing 1.5 hour drive through mountains and valleys.
Three days after Cap and J moved back to West Virginia, they visited us. That's love! It was an epic weekend consisting of too much queso, margaritas, music on the
river, a nature hike, running down a mountain, the farmer's market,
grilling out in a downpour, bloody marys, and some mosquito bites. It was a perfect weekend. The boys incessant medical school chatter hardly dampened the mood, although we did break them up a few times.
Two weeks later, Cap was back and getting dolled up to
attend a local fundraiser with me. It was a great time complete with
lime-a-ritas, the longest bathroom lines you've ever seen, and dancing
in the mist high above the city to the tunes of West Virginia's very own country music band,
who was ironically (and thankfully!) covering such hits as the Doobie
Brothers' "Long Train Running," MJ's "Billie Jean," and others that
even inspired Cap to begin a congo line.
That very next day, W and I were on our way to stay with Cap and J
in their adorable house, now forever known as the Hansel and Gretel
Cottage. We ate Cap's delicious home cooking (she is quite accomplished
in the domesticity department), drank lots of red wine, played Mad Gab
(which I am awesome at!), went antiquing, farmer's marketing, and state
fairing, where we all ate enough to feed a small village and leave
This blog was created at my insistence and has come into being because of Cap's very gracious acceptance of the task. I thought this journey was one that should be documented and surely one to laugh at later.
Cap and I now find ourselves planning
and trying, in various ways, to fill our devoid schedules with as
many activities as we can find to do together, so that we don't, of course, murder the husbands.
mean, we are talking about madly searching to do things like play Bunko with women 30 years our seniors, ballet
classes with retired Russian ballerinas (not really, but it is my worst
fear that this will be true), and anything else remotely interesting
that will stave off the boredom.
Next Thursday, we will attend the local Junior League meeting with
the hopes of joining. Believe it. Me in Junior League. That is if they'll have me, which is still out for debate.